Planning for a Loved One with Dementia

Having the conversation about dementia with a loved one is never easy says The Tribune-Democrat’s recent article entitled, “Dealing with dementia | Planning ahead: ‘Have the conversation.’” But, it is important to discuss the future and ensure your loved one is well-cared for.

First, it is important not to wait too long to have this conversation.  Once there is a diagnosis or symptoms, it’s time to act.  Dementia and similar diseases are degenerative so they won’t get better on their own.  Delay in confronting this issue won’t make things better, and can limit your options on how to address it.

Plus, you want to get as much input from your loved one with dementia as you can.  As the disease progresses, they will have a harder time making their own choices, considering their situation and offering direction and preferences for their own welfare.  This could be everything from living arrangements, care plans, estate planning, to bucket list items.  Starting early includes your loved one as much as possible and preserves their own wishes and choice.

Next, address the legal documents and define the future care. Of course, you should have an estate plan in place long before this.  But, dementia will affect a person’s capacity which may make them unable to create a new plan.  So, this may be the last, best opportunity to review and update the estate plan.

You should especially review the incapacity planning documents such as powers of attorney or trusts.  These documents can help prevent the person from being placed in guardianship by the court, which is an expensive, difficult process for families. When granted, the court appoints a decision-maker, taking away the individual’s ability to make decisions – either in whole or in part. This court oversight continues throughout the individual’s life or until capacity returns.

You especially want to review who your fiduciaries are (such as your agent to make financial decisions for you) and the powers you’ve given them.  For example, if you want to use Medicaid to help pay for your long-term care, the power for your agent to make gifts may become important where it wasn’t 15 years ago when you first executed the power of attorney.

Similarly, it is important to update your medical powers of attorney and directive to physicians, as well as discussing your wishes and preferences with your agent.  These documents appoint a person to make medical decisions on your behalf if you can’t, including end-of-life care.  Having the conversation with your agent about your preferences will prepare your agents to make those decisions and relieve the burden of worrying they are making the wrong decisions.

As a final point here, you should discuss the future care plan with your loved one. Is the plan to live at home?  Will family assist with care?  Will in-home care workers be hired to assist, or is an assisted living or nursing home a better idea?   What’s more, how do you pay for it?  It is often important to discuss these question with your financial advisor and an elder law attorney so that you can make an informed choice.  You may also consider whether and how to use Medicaid or other long-term care programs to help pay for future care.  The answers to these questions also impact your estate planning.

Reference: The Tribune-Democrat (July 29, 2023) “Dealing with dementia | Planning ahead: ‘Have the conversation’”

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What Is a Letter of Instruction?

As a lawyer, I love all of the language in estate planning documents.  I can craft the plan however I need so that the client’s goals are met.  I can address a variety of situations, avoid pitfalls and anticipate changes in circumstances, taxes and law.  I can write clear rules for your loved ones to follow and to benefit from.

I can’t, however, convey your beliefs, wishes, wisdom and thoughts for your loved ones. We can’t always convey the why of your estate plan.  As we say at our firm, estate planning is more than money, it is legacy planning.  A letter of instruction can help you pass your legacy to your loved ones.   See the recent Forbes’ recent article entitled, “Letter Of Instruction: Roadmap To Take This Important Estate Planning Step.” for more.

Some letters of instruction are akin to ethical wills which may provide your loves ones with your wishes and thoughts.  Other letters of instruction may serve other purposes. Therefore, you might consider drafting several letters of instruction. One might be a guide for a trusted friend to handle financial and other matters if you have an emergency. A second might be to the person serving as a health care agent who will make medical decisions for you if you can’t do so.  A third might be to a trustee of a trust for your grandchild urging them to prioritize spending on education, starting a business and so on.

Mary wrote an excellent article on ethical wills which you can find here for more:  https://galligan-law.com/estate-planning-attorneys-recommend-that-clients-consider-writing-an-ethical-will-or-legacy-letter/

It is, however, very important to be careful when writing any letter of instruction to avoid conflicts with estate planning documents.  The estate plan has legal effect we don’t want to disturb.  Instead, letters of instruction should be worded in a way that make them merely an expression of wishes and information  and not a change to your estate planning documents.  To that end, you should share a letter of instruction with your estate planning lawyer to ensure the estate plan and letter won’t conflict or lead to a fight in your estate.

Here are some suggested categories you might include in one or all of your letters of instruction.

ICE – In Case of Emergency. A vital purpose of a letter of instruction is to tell someone (e.g., the agent under your power of attorney for financial matters and the agent under your health proxy for medical decision-making) your wishes and critical information. For both your financial and health care ICE letters, you should list the location of the original legal documents.

ICE – In Case of Financial Emergency. For your financial ICE letter, you should indicate where key financial data is maintained and how to access it. In addition, list the bills to be paid and creditor information.

ICE – In Case of Health Care Emergency. For your health care ICE letter, you should provide key health information and indicate where health records are maintained. It is important to add the contact information for healthcare professionals and any particular health challenges. Your health insurance information should also be provided.

Key Family, Advisers, and Other People. Having a list of positions, names and contact information is helpful for everyone to see, so that they know if certain actions they might have to take may be in the purview of someone else. The listing should be by categories that make sense for you. Some of the positions/relationships you might list include the following:

  • Professional Advisers, such as an estate planning attorney, CPA, investment consultant and banker
  • Family; and
  • Trustees of trusts, the executor under your will, and powers of attorney agents

Reference: Forbes (June 18, 2023) “Letter Of Instruction: Roadmap To Take This Important Estate Planning Step”

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Top Five Mistakes to Avoid When Passing your Legacy

Many families think of the transfer of their wealth and values from generation to generation as an important legacy to their loved ones. A report from Cerulli Associates says approximately $84 trillion will be passed from today’s older generation to heirs by 2042.

As a firm that focuses on legacy planning, we recognize how important for this legacy to succeed.  In order to successfully transfer legacy to the next generation, families and their loved ones should consider the pointers in a recent article from yahoo! finance, “Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes When Passing Down Generational Wealth to Your Family.”

This is by no means an exhaustive list and all situations are different, but consider each in how it affects your legacy to your loved ones.

  1. Prepare beneficiaries for their inheritance. I’m not always a fan of this as sometimes it creates an unhealthy expectation, but considering speak with your loved ones about how their inheritance might change their lives. Educate them early on about personal finance, and introduce them to your advisors, including your estate planning attorney, financial advisor, and CPA. This is especially true with natural heirs, such as children or grandchildren.
  2. Teach heirs how to be financially independent. This is more specifically a family problem, but problems can occur if children expect to receive an inheritance and don’t think they’ll need to work. This could get in the way of their personal and professional growth, and unfortunately is almost never true. A recent study showed that the average time it took to spend an inheritance, regardless of its value, is 4.5 years. You want them to know how to support themselves and the value of money earned, while benefiting from the legacy you leave them.
  3. Make sure to diversify your portfolio. When did you last increase your 401(k) contributions or diversify your portfolio? Be mindful of your investments. You don’t want to overestimate the value of your wealth or leave your children with an out-of-date investment portfolio, or have it shrink due to mismanagement.
  4. Involve your beneficiary in the family business. If your legacy includes a family business, you need to consider the importance of ensuring that whomever you wish to leave it to is fully involved in how the business operates and its financial needs and goals. If you simply toss them into the business without completely understanding it, the transition may not work, or in some cases, lead to catastrophe. As a result, your years of hard work could disappear quickly. A succession plan should be in place, so everyone knows what is expected of them.
  5. Don’t neglect your estate planning. Sit down with an estate planning attorney and create a comprehensive estate plan, including a last will and testament, power of attorney, health care power of attorney, living will, and any trusts needed to pass wealth to the next generation. Do this long before you expect it to be needed. A major mistake is people want to do the first estate plan when they are 85, and aren’t willing to accept that they might not be capable, or that incapacity will be an issue long before.  If you fail to create an estate plan, you may be left with a mess for your heirs (next of kin, not beneficiaries you choose) to figure out. It could take years before they receive the assets you want them to inherit.

For more ideas on this topic, see this article on wealth transfer and legacy:  https://galligan-law.com/common-wealth-transfer-mistakes/

Reference: yahoo! finance (June 5, 2023) “Don’t Make These 5 Mistakes When Passing Down Generational Wealth to Your Family”

 

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