6 Things Seniors Should Consider Before Marrying

Seniors in particular think about marrying with an understandable degree of concern. Maybe your last relationship ended in a divorce, or it’s been a long time since they were married. However, according to a recent article from MSN, “Planning to remarry after a divorce? 6 tips to protect your financial future,” there are some steps to take to make relationships easier to navigate and protect your financial future.

Not all of them are easy, but all are worthwhile.

1.No marrying without a prenup. Everyone thinks of prenups as pertaining to divorce.  They can address divorce, but prenups do much more.  They clarify property in the marriage, such as whether it will belong to one spouse or to the other or both.  Prenups clarify many issues: full financial clarity, financial expectations, the marital rights of the couple and clear details on what would happen in the worst case scenario. This is especially important to putting each of the couples’ respective families at ease as they marry.  Getting all this out in the open before you say “I do” makes it much easier to go forward.

2.Trust…but verify. Estate planning ensures that assets pass as you want. A revocable living trust set up during your lifetime can be used to ensure your assets pass to your offspring. Unlike a will, the provisions of a revocable trust are effective not just when you die but in the event of incapacity. A living trust can provide for the trust creator and their children during any period of incapacity prior to death. At death, the trust ensures that beneficiaries receive assets without going through probate.

3.Estate planning. While you are planning to marry is a good time to check on account titles, beneficiary designations and powers of attorney, both medical and financial. Couples should review their estate plans to be sure planning reflects current wishes. This will go a long way to avoiding fights between the respective families who just recently joined together.

4.Check beneficiaries. Especially after divorce and before a remarriage, check beneficiaries on 401(k)s, pensions, retirement accounts and life insurance policies. If you marry, state law may require you to give some portion of your estate to your spouse or otherwise affect your ownership of property.  In many cases, this can be addressed by a prenup, but you still want to consult an estate planning attorney to guide you through any changes to beneficiaries.

5.Medicaid Planning.    On the negative side, you should consider the likelihood that either party will need help paying for long term care BEFORE marrying.  Medicaid, which is a government benefit that helps pay for long term care, has different eligibility based upon the marital status of the applicant.  Medicaid also expects both spouse’s assets to be used for care which has nothing to do with the prenup.  So, for some individuals, it doesn’t make sense financial to marry where one party will need long term care.

6.Choose fiduciaries wisely. The fiduciaries named in your estate plan are the people who have tasks to fulfill.  This could be a trustee, an executor, an agent and so on.  Consider carefully who should fill these roles as they may have to be between the two families.  Consider the advantages of a corporate trustee, who will be neutral and may prevent tensions with a newly blended family. If an outsider is named as an executor, or to act as a trustee, they may be able to minimize conflict. They’ll also have the professional knowledge and expertise with legal, tax and administrative complexities of administering estates and trusts.

Reference: MSN (Feb. 11, 2023) “Planning to remarry after a divorce? 6 tips to protect your financial future”

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Keeping Beneficiary Designations Up to Date

If you don’t know who your beneficiaries are, then it’s time for a beneficiary designation check. Even if you think you remember, every now and then, they should be checked, according to an article “Are your beneficiary designations up to date?” from Community Voice.

It has become very common for estate plans to be largely controlled through beneficiary designations.  Many people accumulate wealth in 401(K)s or IRAs which pass to named beneficiaries, or clients add named beneficiaries at the suggestion of a banker to avoid probate.  With so many beneficiary designations controlling so many accounts and so much wealth, it’s critical to make sure they reflect your wishes.

I even had a law school professor who suggested one of the worst estate planning mistakes was failing to address beneficiary designations!

Your choices may change with time. When did you open your very first IRA? Do you even remember when you purchased your life insurance policies? If it was back in the 1990s, chances are good the people in your life have changed, as well as your priorities. Your kids are likely grown, or maybe you have more of them!  Maybe one of your beneficiaries has developed some bad habits, and you want to control how the money will impact them.  There are lots of reasons beneficiary designations don’t fit anymore.

When we first filled out the beneficiary designations, we were all confident they’d be the same forever, but time and life have a way of changing things. In five, ten or twenty years, big changes may have happened in your life. Your beneficiary designations and your estate plan need to reflect where you are now, not where you were then.

The best way to address beneficiary designations is reviewing them with your estate plan annually.  If you’re still working, your employer may have changed custodians for your retirement plan and your insurance policy. When a new custodian takes over, sometimes beneficiary designations can get lost in the change, that has happened many, many times.  I’ve also seen companies say they won’t honor beneficiary designations because of internal policy changes.

Life events can also affect your beneficiary designations.  Did you get divorced?  I’d imagine you don’t want your ex as the beneficiary of your accounts.  Do you have minor beneficiaries?  You want to name a custodian of that money in the account plan as part of your designations, otherwise your loved ones are headed to guardianship court.

If you don’t have a beneficiary designation on these accounts, or any account where you have the option to name a beneficiary, you may have a bigger problem. The tax-focused part of your estate plan could be undone if you thought your 401(k) would go to your spouse but your spouse predeceased you.

What’s the best way to handle this?  Make sure your designations coordinate with your estate plan.  What most people don’t realize is that whatever choice you make on the beneficiary designation overrides anything in their estate plan because it passes right to that beneficiary.  That sounds good, but notice most of the problems I’ve recounted are because your circumstances change, or contingencies aren’t adequately planned for.  You also have no control over the contingencies if a named beneficiary should pass away and you failed to address it in the designations.

Your estate plan can cover all of this, which is why directing assets to your estate plan via beneficiary designations might be a great idea.  Everything will go to the persons you intended, but the estate plan will help bypass all of these problems.

Moral to the story, don’t rely on beneficiary designations and make sure you keep them up to date and coordinating with your estate plan to ensure your assets pass to your beneficiaries as you intended.

Reference: Community Voice (September 30, 2022) “Are your beneficiary designations up to date?”

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